Coaching Fees

One on one private coaching is $150 per hour long session. I offer a free initial consultation. If you are ready to get started or want to ask questions just send me an email.

Online men’s group programs vary by workshop content. Let me know if you are interested in joining one because I start them when I get 6 people to sign up.

I studied psychology in college and my first professional position was as social service director for a nursing home. I studied counseling and then working in research and statistics ignited an interest in computer programming. I split my time between coaching and development now.

I studied coaching with Martha Beck and then Dr. Robert Glover and am certified as a No More Mr. Nice Guy coach.

I found Dr. Glover through a wonderful therapist who helped me during my divorce.

In my first session he said to me at the end, you’re a nice guy Greg and I highly recommend you read this book No More Mr Nice Guy. I went home and looked it up. Reading the introduction to the Nice Guy Syndrome on Dr. Robert Glover’s site I could feel the tumblers clicking into place one by one. I’m a people pleaser! I knew th but I thought it was just a normal way to go about life. Suddenly there was a reason for my frustration, my anger, and my inability to figure it all out and get things right despite being one of the smartest people around. And, most importantly, I wasn’t alone.

It’s hard to describe the feeling that your needs are not important, or worse, that having needs makes you feel shame for not being able to take care of them yourself. But just the realization that this would never work helped me to immediately feel less burdened. I was carrying all the weight of everything I ever wanted or needed, as well as that of many of the people around me and felt like asking for help was akin to facing my own worthlessness.

I also spent a good amount of time thinking I was some sort of repressed rageaholic. I thought I was carrying around this anger from my childhood so I looked into every dark memory I could find. I thought I needed to release this anger, to tap into it and exorcise it. To do this I relived some scary childhood moments, the name calling, the angry dad, parents fighting. I looked at my adult years, my resentment over money, the death of my brothers.

And before I was really better I would replace this by carrying around a lot of stories trying to explain it all. I had already dug around the darker moments of my upbringing. During my saddest times whatever negative moment I could recall as a child would poke its head out at me, pointing and having a good laugh because I was screwed. Because nothing could fix my past.

This is the danger of exploring these things, you can uncover a lot of stuff that needs to get processed. “Having tools” helps and then learning to use them well helps even more.

But it took me a while to find self-compassion which helped me realize that instead of busting rocks on the chain gang I could just take the chains off, drop my hammer and walk away. I would likely find myself in front of that rock again but this practice leads to the key that frees me. And even if I forget the key is there or I have to fumble around to find it, the burden of feeling like I need to bust those rocks is diminished in the meantime. If I need to I can stop hammering and just look at the rock a while. I can give it name and say “hello old friend, we meet again.”

Dr. Glover likes to say what one man can do any man can do (I think this is from the movie The Edge with Anthony Hopkins). I tell my story here to inspire you to seek help. There are no short cuts but working with me can help you more quickly uncover your blind spots. I can help you notice when you are walking down a dead end alleyway. I can help you as an objective observer until you can be that for yourself. I won’t teach you tricks to pick up women, but I will help you see why wanting those tricks is just evidence that there is deeper work to do that will make those tricks irrelevant. The only tricks here are habits and awareness. The path forward is integrity and self-compassion and it is the path I am on. I hope you will join me.